Childhood Trauma can take many forms. We often associate it with the physical or sexual assault of a little one, but it can be emotional as wel,. such as, in the form of neglect, or forcing the child to conform to the parent or caretaker’s wishes without regard to the genuine needs of the child.
When we are low in self-esteem, have trouble believing in ourselves; have problems knowing who we are and finding things in life that will bring us gratification; find we have serious problems in relating to others and maybe avoiding connections, or are trying too hard to please and are even putting up with people who cannot see us, or hear us for, or are even finding ourselves putting up with verbal, emotional, or physical abuse; or maybe when we do have emotion it is clearly too intense for the situation, or perhaps we cannot seem to access or share our feelings and emotions; or when we find our thoughts are fearful, negative, or self-attacking — we are probably people who were mistreated as children.
Thus, the way we are treated when young and just developing not only makes us miserable as children but seriously impacts: our self-regard or sense of self; our relationships with others; our ability to succeed in work, and generally in our ability to lead a content and satisfactory life as adults.
It is unfortunate, but probably the majority of people in our society have experienced some type of trauma in their early lives. It may show up in a variety of ways in not finding satisfactory work or relationships; in finding oneself addicted and feeling out of control; or in powerful emotions or images that seem to overwhelm and not make sense with what causes them to arise (flashbacks); or in finding oneself with a hurtful other.
Talking with a therapist trained to help people with injuries from childhood like Dr. Lynn Winsten in Berkeley will ultimately lead to self-awareness and relief. It’s not magic that heals or quick fixes either, it is exploring the roots of the distressing feelings that makes the difference for real.
Perhaps you have been impacted by childhood trauma or you are currently struggling with life’s difficulties. You wonder if what you are feeling is normal or if you should be able to handle it on your own, but sometimes it all just feels like too much.
It has been 20 years since your traumatic childhood experience but you just can’t seem to get over it like you think you should.
Sure – you had to grow up fast and figure out how to get by when your parents were always gone or when one of them came home drunk again, but that was a long time ago.
Could it possibly still be impacting you?
The answer is “yes” and it is ok to admit that you are not ok. There is a trauma counselor in your area who is passionate about helping people just like you work through their childhood trauma and get on the road to healing.
As an adult, you feel like stress is just a fact of life and if everyone else deals with it pretty well, you can too.
But if you are really honest, you would say that you are overwhelmed and just surviving, barely making it through each day and unwilling to admit how you are really doing, even to yourself.
Deep down, you know that stuffing your emotions is not healthy, but what other choice do you have?
Why not talk with a licensed therapist who has helped many people in your same situation learn how to embrace their emotions and cope with stress in healthy ways, changing “surviving” into “thriving”?
Dr. Lynn Winsten is an excellent resource in Berkeley if you have experienced child abuse, neglect, trauma, relationship problems, or any other emotional imbalance in life.
She will help to analyze the root cause of the problem and create a plan for getting your life back to the way you wanted it to be.